Dealing With Female Midlife Crisis Successfully

By Sally Delacruz


Women in their 40s and 50s fall into a crisis that is disorienting depending on how well it is handled. This is commonly referred to as female midlife crisis. This is a confusing period that lasts between 3-10 years. It requires careful handling to avoid possible dangers as a result.

Aging is the single most recognized trigger for these predicaments. It comes with physical and emotional changes that are unavoidable and difficult to conceal. The appearance of wrinkles and grey hair sends the woman into panic. Other concerns relate to relationship stability, work and desired personal image. A health concern would also lead to worry to the extent of thinking that life is coming to an end.

There is no uniform trigger or response for all women. Some will experience predicaments because they have a job, while others will worry for not having a career. Others are worried about the nature of their careers while others wish they had a better one or they had pursued whatever they wanted at childhood.

Children are a source of concern for women at this age. They are worried that they are growing too fast or they are not there. They fear that soon the children will leave home to go work, school or get married. Difficulties in the lives of these children are sometimes interpreted to mean faulty parenting. This comes with self blame.

Aging or the death of a parent is a source of worry for many women. The relationship changes and the lady seems lost. Death can be devastating because it leaves a gap that cannot be filled by anyone. The idea of having someone to spend holidays with or take children to visit is comforting. Absence brings confusion and causes disarray.

It is characteristic of women to get moody and strange at this stage. They are dramatic and easily stressed. They begin a new search for lost dreams or goals. They also are likely to pick teenage behaviors like clubbing, drinking and dancing. Others remember that they always wanted to sing and they want to pursue that.

A woman at this stage is remorseful and feels unaccomplished. It feels as though life is coming to a dramatic and drastic end. This causes panic as she struggles to do what she wished she would have done years ago. She is likely to return to old friends and such habits as drinking or clubbing.

A lady feels humiliated by more successful colleagues and withdraws. She begins to recount risks that were avoided and chances that were allowed to pass. This comes with a lot of regrets, stress and likely to lead to depression.

Some of the behaviors to watch-out for include alcohol abuse. This is an escape route as a woman tries to forget or enjoy what she thinks is youthfulness. She may result to acquisition of jewelry, tattoos, clothing and gadgets that are unusual, extravagant and which do not make sense.

Midlife crisis is likely to come with depression if allowed to persist for a long time. The feeling of dissatisfaction with personal image and accomplishment is dangerous. Some have engaged in relationships with younger men to compensate where fathers or husbands are absent. They encourage their children to excel in academic or expression disciplines like sports, art and music. The time taken depends on how well it is handled.




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